Speaking of “Men On Strike”….
Unsurprisingly, the usual suspects have weighed in with their comments on Helen Smith’s new book, “Men On Strike….” It is certainly an important subject….For the moment I am just going to pick one author and article to which to respond.
I’m not going to argue against the meme that “being a man is hard”, but what I found particularly interesting is that the author completely missed exactly what it is that makes it hard to be a Man. Apparently The King Prawn feels that the difficultly lays not in setting and enforcing standards nor in standing up to those who would do the society harm, no, rather he feels that the difficultly lays in finding the time and the energy to meet the expectations of others.
In his view, the man who works dawn ’til dusk in order that his family might enjoy as much candy as it wishes is an example of why “being a man is hard”. Apparently he completely misses the parts which actually make it difficult to be a man. He lists sacrifice, unselfishness, and physical labor as positive characteristics and yet never mentions the judicious use of power or the need for taking responsibility.
In his final paragraph he states the following:
While the things pointed out in the book may be true, I think the real reason
many men are abandoning traditional roles is plain old-fashioned selfishness.
Ie….the lack of incentives.
Society pushes self first in every aspect of our lives.
Not every aspect….
Selflessness and sacrifice are scorned.
For example, white males are expected to put others first and to be the only members to exhibit selflessness and sacrifice.
Boys are taught about their rights rather than instructed in what is right.
Actually..no…and the blame for that state of affairs lays squarely at your feet.
The author is wrong.
Real men were never in the marriage/family game for what they could get out of it; rather, they were in it because it is the right and good thing to do, even if it’s hard.
What complete and total garbage. Remember, to do what is right and good one must live in just such a society.